Born as a female, I believe every lady shares the same anxiety and depression regarding BEAUTY. The thought of "I can never be pretty" can always drag me into a dark, deep, bottomless hole of self-doubt in a few seconds. I clearly know that I am not the only victim who has been suffered from this since the first day I can name the adjective "BEAUTIFUL."
Let's face it, we are all living in a world which generally adores good-looking people, and whether a person is pretty or not becomes a new standard for the public to judge, especially women. Women love to judge others, whether it is about appearance or figure; even the makeup and smell can be the seasoning when gossiping. Poor women are always the hunter and the prey.
Frankly speaking, I don't think I am either ugly or chubby. Still, every time I see a random girl with shining big eyes and a perfect waistline on the street, I feel like I'm a crown. Sometimes I just finished a lovely makeup, took some cute selfies, got ready to get compliments from my Instagram followers, and posts from hotties like @Katherine_linn @mialiiiu @honeyhannah_20 would pop up on my screen. My fragile confidence breaks into pieces all of a sudden. What's sad is that even the prettiest people like them would sometimes feel unconfident with their amazing looking.
It is too hard to love yourself when you hate the same person in the mirror. Natural imperfections like pimples, wrinkles, freckles, and numerous flaws and asymmetries are slowly torturing and harming women. Because we need superiority to feel secure, though this is cruel and sick. Admit it or not, we need to be prettier than others to be more confident. Why does this happen? I just cannot figure it out.
The author of this book provides a few solutions to get through those hard times when you think you are ugly. What a pity that all those solutions did not work out for me :( ??? So I am not going to share those stuff here.
I just want to say, if you don't think you are beautiful or lack confidence, first, try to make yourself prettier. Exercise or watch some makeup tutorials, or start building habits whatever is helpful for your appearance. Second, make friends with those who can find your actual value is. Beauty is not the only method to gain superiority. Moderate compliments will bring you happiness and confidence. Third, focus on your hobbies. Well goes a proverb, "Earnest women are the prettiest." once you are determined to do something and really go for it, the energy you bring will easily affect others. In this way, even you still cannot think you are beautiful, I believe others except you will do :)
True!!!! I strongly agree that beauty is not the only method to gain superiority. As a human, the inner beauty is much more important than the outer beauty. But it's inevitable to suffer from appearance discrimination from the outside. Ignore those judges and move on. That's what we need to do! (But sometimes I still want to give a slap to those who say harsh words about my appearance lol
ReplyDeleteOMG the whole sentences you said are the things I always thought! We all know thatbeauty can't defined just by their looking. Beauty has multiple ways to discribe, and as Henry commented, inner beauty is way more important than outer beauty. However when it is about me, I always struggle with my looking. I always think how I can be skinnier or cuter, although I know I need to improve my personality better and more than my outlook. I think it is impossible to get rid of this struggles,so we need to accept our selves and forgive our selves.
ReplyDeleteBtw you are also the one who breaks my confidence! You are as hot as other cities you mentioned!!!!!!